Bradshaw, John (1988) Bradshaw on: The Family. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications

Buss, David (1994) The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of human mating. Revised and updated. New York: Basic Books

Chapman, Gary (1995) The Five Love Languages: How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. Chicago, IL: Northfield Publishing    *****

Cloud, Henry and John Townsend (1999) Boundaries in Marriage. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan    *****

Covey, Stephen (1997) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families. New York: St. Martin’s Griffin

Friel, John & Linda Friel (1988) Adult Children: The secrets of dysfunctional families. Deerfield Park, FL: Health Communications

Gottman, John and Joan DeClaire (2001) The Relationship Cure: a 5-step guide to strengthening your marriage, family, and friendships. New York: Three Rivers Press

Gottman, John and Nan Silver (1994) Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: and how you can make yours last. New York: Simon & Schuster

    –    (1999) The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Three Rivers Press   *****

Hendrix, Harville (1988) Getting the Love You Want: A guide for couples. New York: Harper & Row   *****

Jamplosky, Gerald (2011) Love is Letting Go of Fear. 3rd ed. New York: Random House *****

Johnson, Robert (1983) We: Understanding the psychology of Romantic Love.

Keen, Sam (1983) The Passionate Life. New York: Harper-Collins

Levine, Amir and Rachel Heller (2010) Attached: The new science of adult attachment and how it can help you find –and keep – love.New York: The penguin Group

McCarthy, Barry and Emily (2006) Getting it Right This Time: How to create a loving and lasting marriage. New York: Taylor & Frances Group

Runkel, Hal E. with Jenny Runkel (2011) The Self-Centered Marriage: Rebuilding your “we” by reclaiming your “I” New York: Three Rivers Press    *****

Sewell, Carl and Paul Brown (2002) Customers for Life: How to turn that one-time buyer into a lifetime customer. New York: Crown Business    ***** (apply these principles to enhance your life-time intimate relationships)

Schwartz, Pepper (1994) Love Between Equals: How peer marriage really works. New York: The Free Press

Human Sexuality, Attitudes and Behaviors

Brauer, Alan & Donna (1981) ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm. New York: Warner Books

Buss, David M. (2003) The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of human mating; Updated and Revised. New York: Basic Books *****

Chichester, Brian, Kenton Robinson, and the editors of Men’s Health (1996) Sex Secrets: Ways to Satisfy Your Partner Every Time. Emmaus, PA: Rodale Press

Comfort, Alex editor (1972) The Joy odd Sex: A Gourmet guide to Love Making. New York: Simon & Schuster

Joannides, Paul (XXXX) The Guide to Getting It On! XX: Goofy Foot Press

Lacroix, Nitya (1997) The Art of Tantric Sex. New York: DK Publishing

Lloyd, Joan E. (1993) If it Feels Good: Using the five senses to enhance your lovemaking. New York: Warner Books

McCarthy, Barry (XXXX) Male Sexual Awareness.

McCarthy, Barry & Emily ((2012) Sexual Awareness.  XXX: De Capo Press *****

Metz, Michael and Barry McCarthy (2011) Enduring Desire: Your guide to lifelong intimacy. New York: Taylor & Francis Group

Penner, Clifford & Joyce (1981) The Gift of Sex: A Guide to Sexual Fulfillment. Waco, TX: Word Publishing *****

Ryan, Christopher and Cacilda Jetha (2010) Sex at Dawn: how we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships. New York: Harper Perennial

Sanday, Peggy Reeves (1981) Female Power and Male Dominance: on the origins of sexual inequality. New York: Cambridge

Scientific American Mind (Volume 25, number 1, Spring 2016) Special Collector’s Edition, The Sexual Brain. New York: Scientific America

Sinha, Indra, Zek Halu, and Misha Halu – Jane Graham-Maw editor (1992) Kama Sutra: The Arts of Love. San Francisco, CA: Thornson’s

Stanway, Andrew (1989) The Art of Sensual Loving: A New Approach to Sexual Relationships. New York: Carroll & Graf Publishers

Alternate Relational Dynamics

A basic human need is to love and be loved.

Here are some potential, though controversial, dynamics of getting those needs met:

Kaldera, Raven (2005) Pagan Polyamory: Becoming a tribe of hearts. Woodbury, MN: Llewellyn Publications

O’Neill, Nena and George (1972) Open Marriage: A new lifestyle for couples. New York: M. Evans and Company

Rimmer, Robert (1964) The Rebellion of Yale Marratt. New York: Avon Books

  • (1966) The Harrad Experiment. New York: Bantam Books
  • (1968) Proposition 31. New York: New American Library
  • (1972) Thursday My Love. New York: New American Library
  • (1975) The Premar Experiments. New York Crown Publishers